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What do I tell my daughter?

This is pretty embarassing, but my husband and I seem to be having some marital issues. And really, it's that I feel he is an alcoholic and spends too much time at the bar. So my question is...

When my 6 1/2 year old daughter is going to bed at 8:00 and her dad's not home yet (because he's at the bar) what do I tell her? Do I lie to her and say he's fishing? Or do I tell her the truth? I really need some help here.

See also: alcohol, tell, lie, help, bar, alcoholic

Written by Tiffani

Posted on 04/28/2008

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Just tell you daughter that he is out with the guys and will be home soon.

posted by Chelle on 04/28/2008

Hi Tiffany,

First of all it's obvious that this situation is very upsetting to you. Your daughter will be asking more questions as she gets older. So the more important question is, "What is the real solution to this problem?" Do you want to continue covering up the truth? Your daughter will figure it out on her own eventually anyway. Have you tried talking seriously to your husband about this? If not, I would start there. Then if he doesn't respond to your concerns. Seek expert advice, ie; therapist, alanon, ect. There is more at stake here than just your daughters feelings. The whole family could breaking apart.
I came from an alcoholic family background and believe me it does affect a child's future success. Please try to be strong and do the right thing. I wish you all the best.

posted by Darragh on 04/28/2008

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