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June 27- Are there really more people out there who know what I'm dealing with????!!!

I want to cry because I don't feel alone in parenting my daughter for once in 6 years. Nobody who knows us understands the difficulty my husband and I have had with our 6 year old. She was born intense and has never changed, she has the biggest emotional turmoil of any person I've ever met. I kept thinking that it has to be my fault, bad parenting or something, but I have two other children who respond to the discipline we set forth. Kayleigh has always marched to the beat of her own drum, but I just don't see it getting any better or easier.

Kayleigh's imagination is waaaaaay off the charts, she has a whole alternate universe that she seems to travel back and forth from. She won't do what her teachers tell her, she is not interested in anything but imaginary play or playing the guitar or finding animals that she can love. Once about three years ago her doctor told me she was a "Spirited" child, but I don't know what that means for us. I have no help, nobody knows what her "problem" is, they just see this bear of a child who throws amazing tantrums. She's so full of love and she's so incredible, but at the drop of a dime she'll flip out. Now she keeps saying that she wants to kill herself when she gets really upset and she wants to run away to her "real" family. She even packed her bags and was waiting at the door for her "other mom" to pick her up. She has no idea where reality ends and imagination begins. Half the time I think she still remembers her past life and that's why she has such difficulty in this one.

Anyway, tonight I found out that Kayleigh could possibly be an Indigo Child and I leapt with joy. I can't imagine that there is a group of people out there who know what I'm going through. I need to find them and ask them a million questions because I'm so frantic to know how I can help Kayleigh. I know what I've been doing is wrong and makes matters worse, I need advice on how to be the mom she needs.

See also: Indigo, child, spirited

Written by Sabrina

Posted on 06/28/2008

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I can't think of any advice other than medical. Has she been tested for Autism or any other mind/mental disorders? You mentioned her doctor said she was spirited, just wondered if he thought to have her tested for medical reasons for her behavior. I truly wish you the best, sounds like you all are going through a very difficult time.
God speed.

posted by sonya on 07/01/2008

I'm not one to really give advice. But my girlfriend's daughter was very high strung and showed signs of what you are explaining. Turns out she had ADHD. Your daughter may very well have that. And you may need to act now. She is asking for your help in the way that she says she wants to kill herself. Please seek help and and ask her Pediatrician to recommend the appropriate specialists or testing that may be needed. Whatever it is, your daughter needs some stability it seems. Good luck.-Danielle

posted by Danielle on 07/02/2008

The Indigo Child is a boy or girl who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes, revealing a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before. This pattern has singularly unique factors that call for parents and teachers to change their treatment and upbringing of these kids to assist them in achieving balance and harmony in their lives, and to help them avoid frustration."

http://www.innerself.com/Parenting/indigo_children.htm

posted by Lydia on 07/06/2008

You are not alone. My child was thought to be ADHD with much the same behavior your daughter has. The drugs failed though, and then I realized that he was indigo. He went to a shaman and had an energy healing with a past life regression and nearly ALL his anxiety, fear and anger stopped. He was completely changed. He still walks to the "beat of his own drum" but he finally feels understood. He never has tantrums anymore and when he is feeling overwelmed or aggitated he has new copy tools that help him. All the amazing things about him have come to the forefront now that his negative behaviors have diminished. He is happy and hopeful for his future. I guess I would recommend you find her an energy healer or shaman to help. I was freaked out by the idea myself at first, but I was at the end of my rope and medical doctors had no answers for me. The shaman I saw practiced as a family physician for 20 years before beginning her shamanic training. I felt good that she would know if my son had a pyscological disorder. He didn't. She recognized what he was at once and quickly helped him to understand it. It was life changing.

posted by Dandi on 11/26/2008

I agree with Dandi's comments. A medical doctor may not be able to help you. And do not try to "fix" your child with drugs - especially for ADHD. For many kids, being diagnosed with something like ADHD isn't the solution but they are then branded and sometimes begin to fit the label they have been given. You can try many different things like reiki, seeking someone specializing in homeopathic remedies, hypnotherapy. Look in the phone book or online for someone specializing in holistic medicine. I wish you luck.
PS. It also sounds like she may need to stop watching television too. A 6 year old shouldn't even know to say she wants to kill herself. Not a solution, just a suggestion.

posted by JENNY on 11/26/2008

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