What a wonderful discussion topic. I am married to a musician in the gospel industry and the groupies are relentless on this side of the music industry as well.
You're right, Antoniya! There are a lot to be learned from groupies. The, apparently, provide something to husbands that we dont. And that is, intrisically, why our husbands are attracted to them. They provide an escape.
My husband and I do a lot of talking about this subject. I even wrote a book about being a musician's wife. There is a chapter about groupies and I wrote about what I've learned from my husband. Forgive me for being frank, but, my husband says that men are going to be drawn to wherever they are getting "stroked." And that doesnt always have to mean in the literal sense.
Things like nagging, lack of support, withholding sex and other behaviors that we exhibit sometimes, as wives, drive our husbands right into the arms of these women. Sometimes, I cant even say that I blame them, wholeheartedly.
We, as wise wives, must learn to be both wives and "other" to our husbands and know when to make the switch. We have to listen to them telling us what their needs are try to fulfill them so that there is no need to look elsewhere, or pay attention when other things are offered. Does that make sense?
I forgot to add "lack of self-esteem" to the list of things that drive the husbands away. There is nothing more unattractive than a whining woman. If you really think about it, prostitutes/groupies (women in those groups) exude a whole lot of self confidence. Its attractive! That's why we are attracted to our men. They are confident!
I could stay on this topic forever...but I'll stop here and listen to what others have to say.
Your friend in the walk,
Nicole |
