i have a 2 and a half year and she is showing signs of being ready to learn to go potty on the potty but everytime she sits on the potty she screams. when she goes potty in her pull up she tells me and then when she has to go she waits til the last minute to tell you, any suggestions??

my son will be 3 in sept. and i thought he was ready to start. during the day i leave him in a shirt and undies. i hyped him up bigtime about the undies! when i started it all, i said "hey marc, let's go sit on the potty, and when you're done, mommy's going to have a HUGE surprize for you!" he said "a surprize, for me?! what is it???" when he was finished (even though he didn't do anything on the potty) i pulled out a bag with a selection of undies for him. he was super excited when he saw that not only could he wear undies, but that there was a cool selection for him. i also bought a pack of plain m&m's. everytime he goes on the potty, for each thing he does (#1 or #2), he gets 1 m&m. every 30 min. i say in a really excited voice, let's go use the potty!,(same thing after meals and long drinks) and he happily marches right behind me! i thought i was being cheap with the whole 1 candy thing, but it's surprizingly really working! is her potty on the normal toilet, if so, it could be too high which equals too scary. if she has a small potty of her own, make it fun! perhaps you could have a "potty party" or something like that, decorating it with balloons and things she loves. if you allow her to watch t.v., place the potty infront of it, also allowing her to have things like juice or a blanket while learning. now please understand, my method is truly exhausting, but we have only been doing it for 2 days and i see so much sucess already! just be patient with her, remembering to NEVER seem frustrated or yell. it's going to be work for the both of you, but the freedom you get from a potty trained child is so super worth the efforts! good luck!

My daughter urologist told me that kids when potty train usually hold their pee voluntarily, this is sign that they are on the path or potty train but not quit there. In this case urinary infections might come up and that is not good for the baby.  He said not to presure them and maybe in a few more weeks or month the kid will be ready.

A few friends gave me these advice: use some kind of reward system, m&m's, stickers, etc.  1 for #1 and 2 for #2. Also singing a song everytime potty comes.  having dolls that pee also helps, show how they do it and make it fun.

thank you for all the tips. i bought her own potty chair and everythime she goes it plays music. ive tried reward systems with her. we have used candy, stickers, taking her to the store to get something special but she just stops after a few times and goes back to the screaming and crying all over again. she gets excited when she puts on her undies.

perhaps she's just not ready for the task at hand yet. i thought my older son would never get it, b/c like i said, he didn't get it until after his 4th birthday. his father was getting super frustrated and i took over the efforts. he didn't need to be blamed for something he had no knowledge of how to do. i assured his father by saying "listen pal! when's the last time you saw a kid going to prom in diapers?! eventually, he will get it" and he did! perhaps you could google things like "potty training songs" you could sing with her, almost making the entire process like a fun game. i never did potty songs, but hey, if it works, why not? i would also definitely google "free potty training video". i KNOW you can either have one sent to you, free of charge, or watch them online. just search through the links. great news to hear about her loving the undies! it may be a small step, but you have to start somewhere! each and every one of us had to learn to crawl before we could walk, and walk before we could run! there are not many ways to learn that do not involve some sort of a process! really, best wishes along your journey! please don't hesitate if you need more suggestions, i'm sure we can come up with something! oh, and have you spoken to her pediatrician about the matter???

thank you and i will definately ask if i have any more questions. i havent talk to her doctor yet. she goes next week and i was going to ask when we go in cause they like to have me bring her in even if its not necessary

thank you and i will definately ask if i have any more questions. i havent talk to her doctor yet. she goes next week and i was going to ask when we go in cause they like to have me bring her in even if its not necessary

thank you and i will definately ask if i have any more questions. i havent talk to her doctor yet. she goes next week and i was going to ask when we go in cause they like to have me bring her in even if its not necessary

good luck!