hi group im a mum to 3 daughters which i can tell you is difficult at the best of times but i have recently came across something im not quite sure how to deal with my oldest is 9 and has began showing signs of "becoming a woman" how it can be called that when she is a child is beyond me but anyway now i have been faced with the decision do i allow nature to take its course of do i allow the doctors to intevene and stop them until i believe she is psychologically ready for them.at the moment i think she isnt mature enough to handle having them and her mood swings at the moment are difficult to deal with are there any other mothers who have gone through this at this early stage and if so i would love to hear from you as i am in unchartered waters here thanks ,elaine
Hello there Elaine.. well my daughter is only two years old, but I myself started developing at the age of 9 also, and very rapidly... and I can tell you that as it was a little strange and uncomfortable for me, I think it always is no matter what... it's that official jump from girl to becoming a woman unfortunately. I was always told that I acted more mature for my age so I don't believe my mother was so concerned about that aspect of it. But yes it was a time for more conversations about it all... just a lot of listening & learning. And actually about 8 months ago I brought to my daughter's pediatrician's attention that one of hers was swollen and had a small nodule underneath the surface. He checked her out and explained that it is actually not uncommon, although more common among African American children/babies... and that it is a serge of hormone that causes them to swell, sometimes only slightly, sometimes one or both, and that I should watch it that it does not continue to enlarge. I guess there is the rare but very real case of extremely early puberty where they would have to intervene medically to stop it in such a young child, to which i would agree. So I guess my input is that if nature is already taking it's coarse at age 9, I don't think I personally would want to interfere medically... but every situation and child is different. I'm sure with enough thought and consoling with her doctor you will come up with the right thing to to. Anything will be in her best interest I'm sure. God bless~
HI Elaine I also have 3 daughters ages 12 turning 13 in August, then I have a 7 yr and 5 yr old. My 12 has alot of the signs including mood swings. I'm surpise she hasn't had her period yet she is a heavier girl mianly muscle through all her sports she does. And I thought they said the heavier the child the sooner they get it . She told me the other day that including her only 3 other girls haven't yet . Now I was late not until age 15 about before my 16th BD . Now I was a runner big time. Which I was told prolong it. I don't know . I just hope my daughter take after me and have NO problem like I did . Smooth sailing.
My step daughter is 11 she started showing signs at 9 1/2. I read up on it and it says that once the "maturing" starts it comes along up to 2 years before an actual period.
I honestly think that messing with her hormones may cause more damage in the long run.
It is very difficult to go through, but because of the hormones in our food girls are maturing a lot faster.
Just think about it very carefully and talk openly with her about all the changes girls go through.
I recall a good friend of mine having it at age 9, and in talking with other woman, have realized that it does happen that early for some. Just let nature take it's course. Communicate to her lots and listen.
I got my period on my tenth birthday - of course it had to be a sleepover! I was actually the envy of the other girls (trust me, I would have waited if nature had its say) As for your daughter, I think that trying to intervene may send her the wrong message, being that its a shameful thing. At this point she is probably very confused about her feelings and why she is feeling that way. Try to be open and tell her that the things she's feeling are okay and normal and that she can talk to you no matter what. Keeping the lines of communcation open and friendly should reduce the moodiness that she is feeling.
